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Monday, October 1, 2012

Look For The Good

Whether we look for the good or the bad in a person, we will find it.
~ Stacy J. Coles

We often go through the day and judge people based on the clothes they wear, the car they drive, or the job they have. We quickly label the nature of their character without knowing the nature of their situation.

Just as my late mother often advised me to look for the good in any situation, she also taught me to look for the good in people. There will always be someone around who drives us crazy. It's just human nature. The challenge is to look for something good about that person. Just one thing. Once you've found it, focus on that one thing. Compliment that person. Pray for that person. You'll soon find that your attitude has changed towards that person.

It's not about making those who annoy you your best friends. It's about looking past the annoyances. It's about acceptance. It's about kindness.

If that's too cheesy for you, look at it this way: if there is someone at work or a neighbor who is always angry or ornery, instead of assuming they are terrible and avoiding them, find out what's behind the behavior. Maybe they've just lost someone close to them. Maybe they are going through financial trauma. Maybe they are lonely and their behavior is a protective wall that's been built up over time.

Look for the good and be the one who makes a difference. You don't have to be nosy, just care enough to say "Hi," or smile, or ask how they are doing. A little effort can go a long way.

In the Walt Disney movie, Pollyanna, one little girl changed the attitude of an entire town ~ just by looking for the good. She looked past the ornery townspeople, the rude maids, and her lonely aunt, and found good in each of them. She kept her spirits high when they tried to tear her down and in the end, they had a change of heart. It would have been easy for her to leave everyone to their miserable state of mind, but she chose to look for the good in each one of them until she found it.

Granted, that was just a movie. But, the message is real. Pollyanna referred to a quote by Abraham Lincoln that she wore on a necklace. I changed it to make it a little more positive. This is my version: Whether we look for the good or the bad in a person, we will find it. The choice is ours, every day. We should put more effort in finding the hidden good in others, than focusing so much on the obvious negative.
Look For The Good


  1. What? You're asking us to put some effort outside our own little box? Imagine that! We also need to look for the good things about our own writing and not get so down on ourselves or let others make us feel inadequate. Love your thought boxes.

  2. Nice job, Stacy! Love your visiting teaching handouts, too. Would you please email me a PDF for October?


    Terrific blog and website!

  3. Absolutely! Thanks for your comments!

  4. Well said. One of my favorite sayings is that our perspective controls our reality, so we need to look for what's right in the world. Sometimes it's just hard when the world is in the process of beating you down. lol

    1. I love that: our perspective controls our reality. That's so true. Thanks for sharing your wisdom, Donna!

  5. Wow…this post tingled my toes. I’m so full of admiration and respect for firefighters in general and now you in particular Stewart. Thank you for sharing.
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